Ethical Decisions are getting more difficult to make

Rules to Live by. Ethical Guidelines are more personally held then regular Laws or Rules.



Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Keep Believing in Yourself and Your Dreams




Every goal that has ever

been reached began with just one step—

and the belief that it could be attained.



Dreams really can come true

but they are most often the result

of hard work, determination and persistence.

When the end of the journey

seems impossible to reach,

remember that all you need to do

is take one more step.

Stay focused on your goal and remember…

each small step will bring you a little closer.



When the road becomes hard to travel

and it feels as if you’ll never reach the end…

look deep inside your heart

and you will find strength

you never knew you had.



Believe in yourself—

and remember that

so many others

believe in you, too.

---Jason Blume


Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Follow Your Dreams




Believe in yourself and all you want to be. Don’t

let what other people say or do make you frown.

Laugh as much as possible. Let in the good times

and get through the bad. Be happy with who and

where you are. You are in the right place and your

heart is leading you on the way to a great

tomorrow. When circumstances seem difficult,

pull though them. This will make you stronger

then you think. The longer you practice the habit

of working toward your dreams, the easier the

journey will become.



You were meant for great things.

Learn as much as possible.

Always follow your dreams.

--Ashley Rice



Let your dreams take you…

to the corner of your smiles,

to the highest of your hopes,

to the windows of your

opportunities

and to the

most special places your heart

has ever known.

--Carson Wrenn

Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Success is What Happens When You Don’t Give up on Your Dreams




Your dreams are

just around the corner—

waiting to come true.

Believe in yourself

and know your hard work,

persistence, and dedication

will pay off.

And when they do…
They will be extra sweet
Because you will know
you have earned your reward.
May you achieve

all that you wish for – and more. –Jason Blume


Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Freedom


It is impossible to take freedom away from someone. Even if you hold their body in shackles, you cannot stop their imagination from moving beyond their immediate prison and to the world of thought. The body is much weaker then the mind is. However, we do not see all that the mind creates, whereas the physical body creates aspects of the real world, it cannot be said that the ideas that the mind puts in motion are not real as well.

#piccadillyinc

Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Life's Remedy



Grief is an easy aspect to overcome. Creativity is a way to overcome this.


Creativity can remedy many of life’s situations, from grief to anxiety.



There are always the same choices in life. You can take things positively or negativity.

#piccadillyinc

Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Keep Believing in Yourself and Your Dreams


Make Your Greatest Dreams Come True

Know that you are bright, talented, and creative. You have a spirit of adventure and an intense desire to make the world better. You are driven to reach dreams that will make your future so much brighter. You have an inner spark that kindles a light in everyone your life touches.

You are a precious gift to the present and the future, and you must never forget this. Keep on flying with your highest dreams, and believe that they will carry you where you want to go. Say “Yes” to challenges, and dare to make those big, bold dreams come true.

Keep your good character, high ideals, and deepest passions alive. Fly on the wings of your talents and your mightiest dreams. Strive to change the world one day at a time. And make your greatest dreams come true. --Jacqueline Schiff

Yeremiah Hardt
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Color Psychology

Color Psychology

Do different colors affect your mood?

by David Johnson



Related Links

• Color Psychology Quiz

• Color: Psychology, Symbolism, and Interesting Facts

• What is Color?

• What Colors Mean - from FactMonster.com

• Color Blindness

• Academic Colors

• Kandinsky, Wassily

• Color Printing

• Astronomical Color




Like death and taxes, there is no escaping color. It is ubiquitous. Yet what does it all mean? Why are people more relaxed in green rooms? Why do weightlifters do their best in blue gyms?

Colors often have different meanings in various cultures. And even in Western societies, the meanings of various colors have changed over the years. But today in the U.S., researchers have generally found the following to be accurate.

Black

Black is the color of authority and power. It is popular in fashion because it makes people appear thinner. It is also stylish and timeless. Black also implies submission. Priests wear black to signify submission to God. Some fashion experts say a woman wearing black implies submission to men. Black outfits can also be overpowering, or make the wearer seem aloof or evil. Villains, such as Dracula, often wear black.

White

Brides wear white to symbolize innocence and purity. White reflects light and is considered a summer color. White is popular in decorating and in fashion because it is light, neutral, and goes with everything. However, white shows dirt and is therefore more difficult to keep clean than other colors. Doctors and nurses wear white to imply sterility.

Red

The most emotionally intense color, red stimulates a faster heartbeat and breathing. It is also the color of love. Red clothing gets noticed and makes the wearer appear heavier. Since it is an extreme color, red clothing might not help people in negotiations or confrontations. Red cars are popular targets for thieves. In decorating, red is usually used as an accent. Decorators say that red furniture should be perfect since it will attract attention.

The most romantic color, pink, is more tranquilizing. Sports teams sometimes paint the locker rooms used by opposing teams bright pink so their opponents will lose energy.

Blue

The color of the sky and the ocean, blue is one of the most popular colors. It causes the opposite reaction as red. Peaceful, tranquil blue causes the body to produce calming chemicals, so it is often used in bedrooms. Blue can also be cold and depressing. Fashion consultants recommend wearing blue to job interviews because it symbolizes loyalty. People are more productive in blue rooms. Studies show weightlifters are able to handle heavier weights in blue gyms.

Green

Currently the most popular decorating color, green symbolizes nature. It is the easiest color on the eye and can improve vision. It is a calming, refreshing color. People waiting to appear on TV sit in "green rooms" to relax. Hospitals often use green because it relaxes patients. Brides in the Middle Ages wore green to symbolize fertility. Dark green is masculine, conservative, and implies wealth. However, seamstresses often refuse to use green thread on the eve of a fashion show for fear it will bring bad luck.

Yellow

Cheerful sunny yellow is an attention getter. While it is considered an optimistic color, people lose their tempers more often in yellow rooms, and babies will cry more. It is the most difficult color for the eye to take in, so it can be overpowering if overused. Yellow enhances concentration, hence its use for legal pads. It also speeds metabolism.

Purple

The color of royalty, purple connotes luxury, wealth, and sophistication. It is also feminine and romantic. However, because it is rare in nature, purple can appear artificial.

Brown

Solid, reliable brown is the color of earth and is abundant in nature. Light brown implies genuineness while dark brown is similar to wood or leather. Brown can also be sad and wistful. Men are more apt to say brown is one of their favorite colors.

Colors of the Flag

In the U.S. flag, white stands for purity and innocence. Red represents valor and hardiness, while blue signifies justice, perseverance, and vigilance. The stars represent the heavens and all the good that people strive for, while the stripes emulate the sun's rays.

Food for Thought

While blue is one of the most popular colors it is one of the least appetizing. Blue food is rare in nature. Food researchers say that when humans searched for food, they learned to avoid toxic or spoiled objects, which were often blue, black, or purple. When food dyed blue is served to study subjects, they lose appetite.

Green, brown, and red are the most popular food colors. Red is often used in restaurant decorating schemes because it is an appetite stimulant.

#piccadillyinc

 
Yeremiah Hardt
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Balence Sheet of Life

Balance Sheet of Life


Our Birth is our Opening Balance!

Our Death is our Closing Balance!

Our Prejudiced Views are our Liabilities

Our Creative Ideas are our Assets

Heart is our Current Asset

Soul is our Fixed Asset

Brain is our Fixed Deposit

Thinking is our Current Account

Achievements are our Capital Character & Morals, our Stock-in-Trade

Friends are our General Reserves

Values & Behavior are our Goodwill

Patience is our Interest Earned

Love is our Dividend

Children are our Bonus Issues

Education is Brands / Patents

Knowledge is our Investment

Experience is our Premium Account

The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet Accurately.

The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award.




Some very Good and Very bad things

...

The most destructive habit....... ......... ......Worry

The greatest Joy......... ......... ......... ....Giving

The greatest loss........ ........Loss of self-respect

The most satisfying work........ .......Helping others

The ugliest personality trait....... ......Selfishnes s

The most endangered species..... ....Dedicated leaders

Our greatest natural resource.... ......... ..Our youth

The greatest "shot in the arm"........ ..Encouragement

The greatest problem to overcome.... ......... ....Fear

The most effective sleeping pill........ Peace of mind

The most crippling failure disease..... .......Excuses

The most powerful force in life........ ......... .Love



The most dangerous pariah...... ......... ...A gossiper

The world's most incredible computer.... ....The brain

The worst thing to be without..... ......... ..... Hope



The deadliest weapon...... ......... ........The tongue

The two most power-filled words....... ........" I Can"

The greatest asset....... ......... ......... .....Faith

The most worthless emotion..... ......... ....Self- pity

The most beautiful attire...... ......... .......SMILE!

The most prized possession.. ......... .....Integrity

The most powerful channel of communication. ....Prayer

The most contagious spirit...... ......... ..Enthusiasm

The most important thing in life........ ..SOURCE ENERGY



Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Awareness

Awareness is the first thing ever and it is everywhere.


Awareness is so permanent that it is older than the universe.

Awareness is a single thing and it cannot change in any way.

This is Awareness Theory, based on discoveries of new paradigm science.

Awareness can only do one thing and that is to be aware. When frequency wave fields pass through awareness, they become real in material reality. This is new paradigm science. But we already know this because that's exactly what we experience, with light and sound waves and such.

In particular, awareness doesn't die. When we die, our awareness doesn't die because it cannot. It is as alive as ever. It is the same awareness that is everywhere.

Our bodies die, and we can learn something from that. Our bodies have morphic fields of frequency wave patterns that describe our bodies in detail. These morphic fields manifest in material reality as our physical bodies. This is new paradigm science.

When we die, the connection between the physical body and its morphic field is broken. That connection is our awareness of our body. When we are aware of our body, we resonate with its morphic field. Contact with awareness is what makes a wave field become real. This is new paradigm science.

When this connection is broken, when we start losing awareness of our bodies (die) for whatever reason, the morphic fields for our bodies lose resonance and begin to deteriorate. We know a lot about how long this process takes from observing corpses. This means that the morphic field that is manifesting that corpse very slowly loses resonance with our awareness and that our departure from our body is very gradual.

The experience of death does not take anything away from who you are. It shows you that you are not the physical body. We experience this lack of awareness of our bodies every time we sleep. We experience wonderful dreams in sleep, without awareness of our bodies. This is exactly similar to our condition after death.

So the first transition after death is slowly losing awareness of the physical body. Everything else is still intact because none of it is made of matter. All of our awareness, all of our memories, our sense of who we are, are all still with us because losing the body didn't affect them. They are all frequency wave fields connected to an infinite web contained by awareness. This is new paradigm science.

The second transition after death is gradually becoming aware that you are in alternate reality. You already know something about this from your dreams, and your first thought may be that you are dreaming.

Because you are stuck in alternate reality, you adjust to it. You discover that you can summon any reality you want just by thinking about it. You probably spend a while reliving the good times. And then you enjoy your every fantasy. In general, this is based on the science of lucid dreaming, a new paradigm science.

A time probably comes when you get tired of this, and you'll wonder about getting back into the material world. In general, this is based on the science of lucid dreaming.

You can only see the world as it was when you lost your connection because your body senses stopped feeding you information at that point. And up to that point, the signal was progressively weaker. So you don't know what the world is like now. You missed a lot.

Experience patterns are traveling in your personal fields in a figure-8 loop. They stay there, dormant if you don't pay attention to them, and living reality if you do. This means you can experience the wave patterns from your previous incarnations if you pay attention to them. This is easier to do when you're dead because your attention is no longer fixated on material reality.

Since time is so flexible in alternate reality, it is entirely possible that you can choose any point in time for your next incarnation. You can bring wisdom to the past and be a wise person. Or you can lunge into the future where you can participate in the ongoing effort of creating material reality.

Your next incarnation can be designed by you as a morphic field, and you can choose the resonant wavebands you want in your field, by paying attention to them. You can shop through previous incarnations and pick up patterns you'd like to have again. Sometimes, we can bring an outstanding concentration of fields. This is Mozart science. The point is, being conscious; we can direct our attention even without a body.

In many ways, being dead is more interesting than being physically alive. But there are important differences.

You can't make anything continue for long when you're dead because time isn't regulated like it is in material reality. Time is the only thing that makes continuity possible. When you're dead, your lifetimes end and start every few minutes or so, like in a dream. If you want to get back into the arena where you can be involved in creating reality, getting physical is the only way to do it.

You have to have space to act in, space that stays put. When you're dead, space is very changeable. With fixed space, you can move around, and you can map where you are because space is constant.

And you need a choice of projects that you would enjoy working on. You need a whole world, populated with billions of people and items of nature, all involved in some personal endeavor even if that's only survival.

In material reality, it is possible to do. When you're dead, everything is done for you. Just think it and you're there, you're tuned into those patterns. This is good space for getting ideas, but if you ever want to do something with your ideas, you going to need a body in time and space with a world around it.

Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

21 Rules of Life


1. Merry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.

3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.

6. Be generous.

7. Have a grateful heart.

8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.

9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.

10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.

11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.

12. Commit yourself to quality.

13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige,

but on relationships with people you love and respect.

14. Be loyal.

15. Be honest.

16. Be a self-starter

17. Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.

18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.

19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.

20. Take good care of those you love.

21. Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud. .



Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Ten Rules For Ending Resentment

by NORMAN VINCENT PEALE



FIRST: When anyone hurts you, put "spiritual iodine" on the wound at once. That is, pray hard about it. If you do not do this it will fester.

SECOND: If resentment has hardened in your thoughts, apply grievance drainage. That is, open your mind and let the grievance flow out.

THIRD: Do this by unburdening yourself to a trusted counselor or write a letter to the person against whom you have the resentment. Then tear it up and while holding the pieces in your hand pray for the person and forgive them.

FOURTH: Become fully aware of the harm resentment can do to you, even to making you ill. Think of that whenever a hate thought comes.

FIFTH: Don't stop with forgiving a time or two. Do it, if necessary, seventy times seven---490 times to be literal.

SIXTH: Thinking about forgiving is not enough. You must come to a specific moment when you say "With God's help I now forgive."

SEVENTH: Repeat the Lord's Prayer inserting your offender's name, "Forgive me my trespasses as I forgive..........."

EIGHTH: Pray for the other person, asking specific blessings for them, especially concerning matters which have previously annoyed you the most.

NINTH: Speak in a kindly and complimentary manner and as often as possible about the person against whom you harbor antagonism.

TENTH: Make a sincere study of the personality factors which created an unhappy relationship so that the "mistake pattern" in yourself may not recur.



Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

10 Earth Saving Tips



1. Recycle as a Family

As a family we recycle what we can. We separate out glass, plastic, cardboard, cans, and newspapers, taking it down to our recycling centre when we are passing it--no point in using the petrol to make a special journey there as that would defeat the object of the exercise! We also turn off the TV standby button, and switch off unnecessary lights, just our small bit to try to save our precious planet for our grandchildren!
2. Get Unplugged
Unplug! There are many, many things around the house that are plugged in and draining little bits of energy round the clock, without even being "on"--i.e., your TV/VCR/Stereo/DVD player, computer, microwave, battery charger, anything else with a constant display (clock) or some sort of programming that resets when the power goes out. Unplug them until you are ready to use them and forego the convenience of the programming if possible, or use a power strip and turn it off, thus unplugging many things at the flick of a switch (great for the entertainment center).
3. Teach Kids About Nature
I've always had a love affair with nature, but now that I have a child, I am spending a lot of pondering time in it. In walks to the park I feel a sense of enchantment, awakened by my daughter's wonder. We explore flowers, trees, and rocks. After our outings, I feel peaceful, connected, and refreshed. She leaves with a smile on her face and a calm that silently bonds us. I am starting to understand the deep impact nature has, and the responsibility I carry with my choices. I have recently started using environmental diapers, recycling diligently, and buying natural products.

I don't want to lose my connection to earth; and I see that in making conscious choices, I can help my daughter understand that in nourishing the earth; we are in turn nourishing ourselves.
4. Go Hybrid
I don't know how possible this is, but my idea is for the government to order all car manufacturers to make only hybrid cars from now on. No more cars that run on just gas. That way every person buying a new car will be buying a hybrid, and in a matter of just a few years, the percentage of hybrid cars to gas cars will be much higher.
5. Walk Lightly on the Earth
Lead by your life's example. If you are concerned with the effects of pollution, overconsumption, encroachment, extinction, etc., you must start by "walking lightly" on the earth. Be more aware of how your choices impact the world. Make transportation choices that consume less energy (e.g. walk, ride, public transit, carpool). Learn to distinguish what you need from what you desire, and then make intelligent choices based upon how much utility you gain. Take some of the money you save from the above exercise and use it to support groups that are making a difference.
6. Garden Naturally
I have five composters. The resulting compost feeds my many gardens and my decreasing patches of sod. I grow fruits and vegetables and freeze and can as much as I'm able....I don't use air-conditioning in the summer, use natural gas for heat, cooking and clothes drying in the winter (in the summer we air-dry mainly); recycle my gray water for plant watering in the summer, collect rainwater in a barrel.
7. B.Y.O. Grocery Bags
In our country here Down Under, there has been a movement to introduce reusable shopping bags instead of giving people the usual plastic bags for groceries. The reusable bag, which is made of some lightweight sort of fibre, costs $1.00, and you can put a lot of groceries in them. They have become very, very popular here, and it is like a badge of honour to carry one. In fact, although you can still get a plastic bag for your groceries if you want, the checkers in our supermarkets in our mall always ask customers if they wouldn't rather buy a resuable.
8. Hop on Your Bike
As much as possible I commute on my motorbike; 65 MPG. Speeds, even on the highway, are kept down. The car & motorbike live by the WWII adage: "Is this trip really necessary?" As much as possible I take the bicycle instead. For recreation I bicycle, sail or paddle instead of motor.

9. Clean with Green
I try to clean with "green" products. I noticed that many regular household cleansers were actually bringing irritants into my home. I could hardly breathe and my eyes would burn. And then once released down the drain or thrown in the trash, I realized they would wreak their own special havoc on eco-systems. So now I try to use products made by companies like Seventh Generation--or I just wash windows with vinegar and newspaper, scrub the tub with baking soda and water.

10. Eat Less Meat
I'm not a vegetarian (yet)...but I'm cutting back on my meat consumption and eating more organic produce. Most of the deforestation in the world is caused by fields cleared for livestock grazing. Cows' methane is a huge contributor to global warming, and the amount of resources it takes to feed one cow could grow many times more grains and vegetables. So it's not just the ethics of eating meat, but even cutting down our consumption can make a huge impact.

Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Friday, February 12, 2010

Chicken or the Egg?


Which came first? Awareness or love? Chickens wake up faster than humans but, with limited potential! Chickens are generally raised with no love and, lots of human awareness of how much $$ they can produce eggs or meat! 'Chicken abuse’ is favored by ‘so called’ humans who claim they live in awareness. Watch a ‘chicken raising’ video if in doubt. Most human babies are raised in a loving environment with ‘mother love’ or, these days, maybe even ‘gay love’!



Human babies are the least capable of fending for themselves of all animals in the sea or on land. Human babies are born with unconscious love and unconscious awareness that takes years, at best if ever, to develop into something that allows them to be the ‘Buddha’ or Christ that all would aspire to. All animals are dependent on some kind of love and awareness even if it’s to just ‘fatten them up for the killing to eat’. Humans slobber at the thought of eating chicken, unconscious that someone else ‘de-feathered’ and chopped it up to earn a buck to pay for the chicken killers ‘shanty shack’ and, supporting the kids. All for the chicken lovers (?) ‘unconscious’ glee.



What is best to have - awareness or love? Why make a decision and, not take both with ‘consciousness’?! The mind can have a certain awareness that the heart cannot and vice versa. Put them together and, intelligence is uncovered. This society is ‘mentally oriented’ to work and buy, buy, buy. LIfe becomes ‘fried’ to the heart. We are a society of ‘window shoppers’. The few who are here to ‘entertain’ the window shoppers, especially those vast majority who don’t find the ‘innertainment’, uh .. . ‘within’!



With ‘awareness’ one can find all about ‘chickens’. With love and awareness about chickens, one might use conscious intelligence and, respect for the chickens! Why not?

It might rub off on respect for the self and all the gifts within that are endlessly overlooked! Intelligence is actually still free! It just takes a lots of awareness and love!

Why be chicken? Chickens can’t meditate but, humans can!



Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Atttude about Life



Our Attitude Defines Life,

Life is best for those who want to live it,

Life is worst for those who want analyze it,

Life is difficult for those who want to for those who want to criticize it.



Our attitude defines life,

Enjoy your life,

Laugh so hard that even sorrow smiles at you,

Live life so well that even death loves to see you alive,

Fight so hard that even that even fate accepts its defeat….



Yeremiah Hardt
yeremiah@aol.com

Saturday, February 6, 2010

Free Thinkers


To think freely is the most magnificent gift that we all hold. Life is all about our thinking freely, we gain strength from it. We are truly living by having freedom of thought. No one can capture your thought, and take it from you. It always exists.

Thought is life. When you think about something, you create alternative ways to to perceive reality.

Friday, February 5, 2010

Teaching and Learning

It is wise to view teaching and learning as one in the same. After all teachers, learn as much from student, as students learn from teachers.


In essence we all learn from experiences that we have as well as others experiences also. Life could be viewed as a constant learning experience. Every obstacle you overcome or do not overcome, you gain wisdom and knowledge which in essence is power.

Knowledge is power, so everything you know is an attribute to your power. Everything you consume makes you powerful or better equips you to use as to show that power as miraculously as you desire. All we have to acquire is patience.

Everything is available through patience. It is more than virtuous, it is a necessity a necessity for wisdom. To achieve much of anything requires vast amounts of it. In essence patience is a focal point for teaching, learning and wisdom.

Wisdom changes from time to time. Adaptation is truly wise in all that you teach and lean. Reception as well as perception of wisdom is necessary throughout our learning as well as our teachings.

Interaction is the key. With interaction it is easy to share thought that we have learned from one another. You should remain as open as possible to all thought, no matter how ridiculous they may seem at the moment. You may be able to use them in the future.

It does not matter if someone else uses them, for as long as they get used, that is all that is important. Usage of thought is of great importance. In fact without thought, we will not be here

Life being short


Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it. Friends/family are like balloons: once you let them go, you can't get them back. So I'm gonna tie you to my heart so I never lose you. Send this to all your friends/family including me and see how many you get back. If four balloons are returned to you, something you have been waiting for a long time will happen!!!! Send a lot of little balloons!

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Black & White

In life, a lesson learned in your past that you will never forget completely.When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson learned that day.

I was convinced that "I" was right and "he" was wrong - and he was just as convinced that "I" was wrong and "he" was right.


The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. "White," he answered.

I couldn't believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.

The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, "White." It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side was it black.


My teacher taught me a very important lesson learned that day: You must stand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation through their eyes in order to truly understand their perspective .